For those who have been following our infertility journey, we are so grateful for the constant support, prayers, love, and kind words. I started blogging about this a couple years ago and I did not think a lot of people would be looking for the next one to see what was going on. I needed to process my feelings about it and the best way I figured out was to write it out. There has been a lot to say and a lot of feelings. We have greatly loved and appreciated the following of our saga.
Some of you may know that we have been going through the process of IVF (In Vitro Fertilization). I did a couple weeks of stimulating hormones and monitoring appointments every two to three days to prepare for an egg retrieval. On October 23rd, we drove to Richmond for the procedure. We woke up at 5:00am and Josh drove us on a chilly morning. The care team and medical staff were incredible and kind, even on an early Saturday morning. The process was smooth and simple on our end. Josh had to wait outside of the building after I was hooked up to wait for me (thanks COVID). I woke up from the procedure as quick as I fell asleep and soon after the doctor came in to tell me that they retrieved six eggs.
For those who we know who are also going through infertility, we pray for you all the time and hope that by our sharing what has been going on, we have made it more transparent and easier to talk about even though we know it does not get easier to go through. I want those of you who are struggling to know that the following post and pictures may be a trigger for you so if you are not in a good spot, I encourage you to take a break from reading the rest of this. Also if needles/medication makes you uneasy, maybe do not look at the pictures.
As the days went by, I started Progesterone in oil shots and estrogen pills to prepare for an embryo transfer. The doctor called to let me know that out of the six eggs, five were mature. Out of those five, one did not fertilize, two definitely fertilized, and two were still up in the air. I waited a couple more days (until the day before the transfer) to get a phone call where I was told one of the “up in the air” eggs did fertilize. The morning of the transfer, October 28th, I spent some time packing for my sister’s wedding (which was wonderful) and used the distraction to burn time before getting a phone call that I had a blastocyst ready to transfer.
Josh came home early from work and was able to drive me to and from Richmond for the transfer. It was a quick and relatively painless procedure. As I was being prepped, we were given a picture of our blastocyst and Josh was able to look at it through the microscope, our teeny tiny little “embaby.” I think I scared the doctor responsible for the eggs and embryo because I distinctly remembered his name from the retrieval since it is my dad’s name. It was also the last thing I remembered before going under anesthesia. As he left the room, I think I yelled, “THANK YOU DANIEL” a little too loud.
One of the little traditions that women going through infertility do is that after their transfer, they eat McDonald’s fries as a salty snack and for good “sticky vibes.” I thought it was cute. We got to Richmond a little early, so I had my fries before the transfer, but we are going to count it.
Two days after the transfer, I got another phone call that they were able to freeze one other embryo. The other fertilized egg did not make it. So, we started with seven follicles, got six eggs, three were fertilized, two became blastocysts. One of the two was placed into my uterus and the other was frozen. The frozen embryo will be used if this one did not make it or to have another child in the future.
Monday morning, I went in for blood work. They were going to tell me if I am pregnant or not. I drove to Norfolk, saw an old friend, and ran some errands to keep my mind busy. I got the phone call while I was in the grocery store. I am pleased and amazed and blessed to announce that we are pregnant! I will go in for blood work on Wednesday to make sure my HCG levels (the “pregnancy hormone”) double. After that they will schedule my first ultrasound in a couple weeks!
In a normal pregnancy, we would not have announced so soon. After my husband and I discussed it, we thought it would be best to keep everyone in the loop since we have been sharing every step of the way so far. We want everyone to know that there are still some risks, but as of right now, we are celebrating this amazing victory.
I cannot believe that after three years and nine months of trying to get pregnant, several ovulation induction attempts, five failed IUIs, a Hysterosalpingography, a hysteroscopy, and one IVF attempt, we are actually pregnant. I am going to continue to keep blogging about our journey and keep our friends and family in the loop. Like I said, it is still early, but we want to make sure those who have been so closely involved in this with us get all the updates.
I still consider myself infertile. Without IVF, we probably would not be pregnant right now. I will continue to blog about the struggles of infertility, the process and the pregnancy, the mental and emotional toll it has taken on us, and how it will affect us in the future. Infertility has changed me, there is no doubting that.
Thank you again for all of those who have prayed for us, sent us cards and messages, and for our family who has helped us tremendously with finances, and most of all to God for providing for us and holding us close through this process. As weird as it is to say, we would not be pregnant without you all! May God be glorified in all that we do and throughout this whole pregnancy and beyond as we have tried to glorify Him in the process leading up.